brittinbusan replied to your post: chin up GIS~! things will get better!xx
Yeah it will. Just letting myself feel sad for a bit. I think ignoring these feelings will ultimately be detrimental. I may just let my emotions run their course.
Even I’m getting tired with myself. I’m on the verge of starting a pledge to not mention anything IRL about Tomato for a month or something. Not that I’m hogging conversations or bringing shit down. I’m just getting bored with it a bit.
I think everything is up from here^^
scwlove replied to your post: What did you hear?? what kind of chatting? Why do you have your answers now
oh nothing that interesting. Just background noise.
I have my answers because he rejected my phone calls at 9pm. Ignored my text. Hung up when he realized he had dialed me. Ignored the next text. I
wanted an answer to if the message from last night was his attempt at “explanation breakup message” or a ” bare with me and we will be together again later” He ignored it all.
That means the first option. He sent the text because he was feeling guilty and wanted to just explain. Not reconcile.
seoul-siren replied to your post: Sister: Hey GIS how r u? Me: Hi. okay. bored at…
After all of this, do you want to get back together with him?I think no. And i think yes. I don’t know. I’ve always had a policy when we’ve talked about relationships with my friends, that ‘you can…
Reblogging, because comments are way too limited.
I don’t think you should worry about tumblr people because, unintentional as it may be, we only see it from your point of view and furthermore only what you decide to share with us. Sure, people are likely to pass judgement one way or another, but I think you should take it with a grain of salt. We don’t know everything. You have your reasons for whatever action you take.
That said, regardless of how you two were like together, I’d like to say that you shouldn’t even consider getting back together. What trust is left now? After this, how could things even start to resemble what they were before? Not to mention, you deserve more.
Nobody deserves this treatment.
I’m just an anonymous voice on the internet, though. As such, you have every right to disregard my nosy input. It’s rough, what you’re going through, and from what I’ve read, you’ve been handling it with more strength and grace than I think most people could muster. Props.
Anything else I could say, you’ve heard already. It takes time. Go ahead and cry. Don’t berate yourself for how you feel, whether it’s mourning the relationship or your fears for the future. And so on and so forth.
You have people to support you but the end of the day, you’re the only one that matters. Do whatever you feel will make you happy.
Accent seems to share your opinion… he just emailed me “I don’t know if he’s deserving of you to be honest. But whatever happens and whatever you choose we’re always here for you.”
teachacrajy replied to your post: Lair is really stepping up to the plate for me…
My rule is 2 weeks. Two weeks of radio darkness and then re-evaluate how you feel. Be careful of your heart as it plays games with your head (can’t believe I have the balls to write that just now considering my track record… lawd…)
I’m definitely feeling the ‘two weeks’ in my head at the moment. 1 week (this sunday night) is a definite, but I kinda know that is too early. Thankfully Accent will be here to take my phone off me/trade phones for the night so I still have an alarm in the morning.
coffeejusayo replied to your post: Lair is really stepping up to the plate for me…
I think it is definitely because we know you and only what you tell us about him. We are not attached him him at all where as I think the female Korea tumblr community, though it has its problems, is pretty supportive/protective of each other.
True. But everyone has made damn good points. Almost all of which I agree with. I’ve taken a bit from everyone’s suggestions and used them all. I’m so happy I have had this blog and the community, just so that I didn’t have to do this feeling like I only have 2 friends in the world (which is sadly very true in my current situation in Korea - although it’s kinda of always been my situation in life 2-3 good friends and family). Here I miss the support of family, so it’s good to have so many people chiming in with their stories and advice.
And i still feel the need to apologize for my insane amount of rambling posting. But I guess that’s what the scroll button is for right? It’ll all get better, my posts and my own emotions ㅎㅎ
teachacrajy asked: I have been through a big breakup myself and I just wanted you to know you have my sympathy. A breakup of a serious relationship is NOT like a wound, like many say; it's like an amputation. Not only does the wound have to heal, you have to learn how to live without him/her. Great songs and great poetry were the only things that comforted me for a long time -- Read Dickinson and listen to Hank Williams and Billie Holiday!
Thanks for your message! Yeah, you have to reorganize your life. Where I had one night for friends, 1 night for him and maybe a second night for one or the other on the weekend…i now just have a damn big stretch of time that I want to avoid. And my work is not at all busy or distracting.
I’ve been substituting by messaging my friends ‘good night’ instead of him. Because we did that every night (except when I was back home on holidays). I’m letting people know that ‘I’m up for anything’ (because ‘anything’ is better than my house) and meeting back up with my Korean neighbour who loves to see me, but when Tomato and I could only see each other on the weekend, she only had weekends free, so it faded off.
Unfortunately for me, songs make me sad. I tend to avoid all music at times like this, and even though I thought I deleted all the songs (especially all the club songs we adored and would always listen to together), they didn’t and turned up on my Ipod shuffle play- caught that before they played though.
I just need to be ‘out there’ and not in my house. even if ‘out there’ is sitting on Casanova’s bed in silence while she cleans her house (that was yesterday).
Definitely appreciating all the kind words that are coming my way. They are all helping me to hear support from so many people.
Thankyou ^^
coffeejusayo replied to your post: oooooh i am already in a bad mood today and right now i want to go on a wtichhunt for this guy. a;lskej;rlajes
Good thing you missed my original posting where I forgot to black out his phone number. Although I did for split second fantasize about letting him be hounded by a mass of Tumblr girls.
daslava replied to your post: I haven’t been following you for long but seriously, I give you so much credit for how you’re handling this. I can’t even believe how childish his behavior is. I would have gone CRAZY if I was in your shoes…
Read by me while sitting in a classroom alone waiting for my Korean class (which is the last thing i want to do) while trying not to cry. I want to go crazy crazy on his ass but I hate that I know that it’s not going to help me. Just make me more upset.
Colorfullove replied to you post: what the— is this turning into an epidemic? or have guys always been this cowardly…
This is the question I have been pondering. Is it really okay to write this off to cultural? Do all Korean guys do this when they break up? (I’m assuming “no” but it seems common)
Maybe someone with more experience and insight about Korea can give an answer. When my nice co-teacher enquires- I will be telling her the way he did it and maybe she has some insight for me
I guess I could’ve stayed home today, but I figured I’d better come into school so I’m not in my apartment alone.
Turns out, I’m at school alone.
Last night Lair was surprisingly helpful and supportive, giving some damn good advice which is more than I ever expected from him.
coffeejusayo replied to your photo: That would be Tomato’s current Kakao talk profile…
He is so incredibly selfish. You hang in there~
Good some perspective. Because the way I was thinking “Oh he’s hurting too. Oh lets be happy again together!” *birds chirping* *Children’s laughter fades in and out*
or at least “Oh he’s hurting. Maybe he’ll talk to me”
Mexican in Itaewon with Casanova. Cupcake at hers. My dinner is a kit Kat crunchy and an oh!yes chocolate thing. Tomorrow I go to the gym and start making myself (more) awesome. But tonight I have Korean class. Which is the last damn place I want to be.
